Actually I already knew. I wanted to save us so bad, I wanted to hold on to that idea of staying together forever. That idea of moving in together, having his babies and sitting together in our house when we’re eigthy and then I would hold his hand and tell him we made it.
Until I realised we’re so much better as friends. I realised that when we were friends, I actually had more fun and things were way less complicated. This realisation came about ten minutes after he said he wanted to break up, I knew that it was better this way. If it would have been my choice, I wouldn’t have done it yesterday, not on valentines day. But it wasn’t only my choice. Now it’s time to go back to how things were before all this, hopefully, we can go back to being ‘just best friends’.
I was missing him for a while already, like he was gone, he was there but not really. I missed his enthousiasm, especially that. I still don’t know if it was because of me, that absence of enthousiasm. But yesterday, it was there again. I knew he had doubts about our relationship for a while. He asked me if we could watch a movie just as friends on valentines day. For a moment it was just like then, that time when we were more than friends, but less than lovers.
When I look back at the whole thing we were always meant to be best friends. I find it weird when people talk about ‘more than best friends’ or ‘we’re just good friends’, I know, I also do it myself, but actually it’s weird to say, sometimes friendships are much more worth than a relationship. Our friendship is so much more worth to me than our relationship ever was.
The worst thing about this is when people react really shocked, when they say they didn’t expect it and ask me if I’m okay. I really hate that. Luckily, most of my friends know that and reacted with ‘ohh okay, well that’s a shame’.
I really think we should not complicate things. As long as you have a loving and wonderfull group of people you can call ‘home’, everything will be okay. We get hurt, we learn, we grow and in the end we still have lots of fun.
‘Every morning, we get a chance to be different. A chance to change, a chance to be better. Your past is your past. Leave it there. Get on with the future part.’
Love & Peace